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4/23/2013 5:00:00 PM
COLUMN: Let's grow up
Bob Weete

It is beyond ridiculous. Everybody has an opinion. We know that by now. The real problem, I think, is that we are all so determined that we have right answers, the "facts" of a situation. The real truth is, all of us have some truth and some not so true. We won't admit to having the "not-so-true".

Remember the olden days when we went through the "did too - did not" arguments with our siblings? We thought as a child. Sound familiar? It should. That is us. The "facts" are that there is some truth in all sides of the issue discussed. One truth is that there are, indeed, people out there who have some of the characteristics all sides describe. And it is always the other guys who are wrong.

And what has it accomplished so far? Not a whole bunch, as far as I can see. One thing that still bothers me is the many attempts at intimidation used to scare people. That is not the American Way, period. For Chicago gangsters? Well, maybe.

But, if we are truly supporters of a good, American city, and if we can forget our own egos and needs to have "friends", and, above all, keep emotions out of it, I believe we can save this town from ghost town status.

There's a lot of talk on the comments on the PVVT website about being "positive". That means everybody. It does not mean we have to all become Pollyanna's, looking at life through rose-colored glasses, because there is enough evidence in history to show clearly that is dangerous. Putting our heads in the sand protects nobody; in fact, it means open territory for those whose intentions are not honorable.

So, why don't we all make an honest commitment to not wait for the other side to take the first step? Let's make individual commitments that we will no longer lower our standards to name-calling, put-downs, out-and-out lies, and all the other negative stuff.

I'll tell you one truth that I can claim with assurance is that I really doubt that if the PVVT did not allow the phony names to cover up, would any of us say some of the things we have said? I kinda think not. It's the anonymity that helps bring out the rudeness, the ugly statements, and the trash. Are we actually kinda embarrassed by what we are saying? If so, why? After all, we're in free speech territory.

The "free speech" amendment was not meant to allow us to say anything we want, and then hide behind some cute little pseudonym. In those days, in the old country, people could be thrown in jail for saying something or writing something that the "upper class" or powerful did not like. Our Constitution was written to protect citizens from this injustice.

When we allow anonymity, is that really allowing "freedom of speech"? I don't think so for a minute. What this really allows us is an opportunity to say some things that having real American morals and values would normally cause us to use more discretion.

It allowed us the freedom to state our opinion, to disagree with others on matters of importance, without any reprisals, without any harm brought to bear. Now that is what real freedom is. Isn't that more likely to result in honest progress, honest and respectful exchange of ideas, and certainly more information to make rational decisions? Isn't it time we embraced that concept again, and enjoyed that freedom? Wouldn't our lives be easier and more fulfilling?

The more we learn to set a good example to our young people in cooperation, mutual respect, even in disagreements, isn't our town, our country, going to profit and mature? The picture we adults often show our youth - is that what we want them to become? If so, then, frankly, I am concerned. "Don't do what I do; do what I say" is no way to teach our kids, is it?

"Hate" is debilitating at best. Just because we disagree with someone on a given topic, why must we allow that to develop into hatred and even violence? How does hatred solve anything? Does it make us magically more important, more powerful than the other person? Not really. In fact, does not hatred actually make us even smaller yet?

We are all going to face our own judgment day; most of us are aware of that. What makes us think that our judgment of someone is so darned important and significant? "Political Correctness" Is killing this country. When we succumb to this because we convince ourselves that it is "freedom". We are the fools. This kind of freedom is a lie. Unless we have common rules to which all are beholden, there is no foundation, no real protection as is promised.

So what do you say? We like to say we are a town that takes care of our own. If this is true, then the time is now. We must pull ourselves together, forget ourselves, and start collectively working to save our town from the greed, the cancer of hatred that is eating us alive.

Let's send Satan back to what is left of Sodom and Gomorrah.

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Reader Comments

Posted: Monday, April 29, 2013
Article comment by: EL PICA BUYAS

@, @ El Pica Buyas, person. There are no guarantees in life. You can make all of the right choices there is to make. But sometimes faith deals you a bad hand. Look at other places that are much bigger than Blythe. You have college educated kids living with parents because they can not find work, or people that have lost their employment due to the economy. You have people on welfare here, they make as much or more than a person working at a fast food place. So where is the incentive here to make a way for yourself here in this town. Some will say move, but you need money to move. So it's not all cut and dry, or black and white. When I was working, I invested in Saving Bonds, and in a Disability Insurance policy. Also invested in a 401 and had to cash that in when I became disabled. So I had to cash those Bonds also because they became a joke on their payback. So I'm living of my investment on the Disability Insurance. I'm not taking public money. But also, I know what it feels like to live off a lot of money to 20% now of what you were making will working. It makes you humble. For a long time. I lived with a lot of anger.

Posted: Monday, April 29, 2013
Article comment by: @el Pica Buyas

I have to say--- People in America keep hearing from the President that all people should be "equal". Nonsense. "There will always be the poor." The thing that used to drive Americans was the concept that OPPORTUNITY was here for people, through hard work, can rise to whatever level they choose, not possible in their homelands. It's the OPPORTUNITY - not a guarantee. It depends on what drives you. Get an education. Not necessarily a college degree, but tech schools, specialty schools, etc. Put out your very best, be a morally straight person. You may not become a billionaire, but who cares? You CAN be as "equal" as you are willing to take the challenge. As to AJ, how "nice" that you drop by with a few cans of food. That is super. BUT, the real sign of a man would be for him to serve the needy in some way, without judgment. You will find they are people, too. Every person is different, at whatever social level. They deserve something more than a can of food. They deserve respect. In many cases, they made bad choices, but who hasn't? Consider how blessed YOU are, but the poor will always be with us. Brother's keeper? Well, that is up to you. The cans are better than a kick in the groin, however. Thank you.

Posted: Sunday, April 28, 2013
Article comment by: EL PICA BUYAS

@AJ Mckay. Most people wished that they had those twenty dollars. To buy what they needed. How can you see, what is going on. When you see from above. Try looking at things from the eye level of the regular people. People that are struggling to make ends meet. You judge people by your standards, on the way you live. So not all people are as well off as you and your family. So not all are equal when it comes to income. It's good that you have extra money and time to help others.

Posted: Sunday, April 28, 2013
Article comment by: AJ McKay

I guess I will say that this town hasn't taken away or given anything from most the people I know or myself. Blythe politics won't stop my family and I doing what we love. If politics have affected anyone's life that is unfortunate. But then gain getting involved in politics is a choice. I've said before that Blythe is full of people who complain or give opinions, but you will never see most of those people getting involved in anything. Even a simple food drive or take $20 worth of food to the local pantry. I have many times. Doing something good in or for the community doesn't always have to be through politics. People can do something positive anytime they would like on their own. :)

Posted: Saturday, April 27, 2013
Article comment by: EL PICA BUYAS

@ AJ McKay. Those few get the extra special treatment by Law Enforcement, The District Attorneys Office. City Hall with business permits and Doctors at their beck and call. I guess you have to make with what this town deals you.

Posted: Friday, April 26, 2013
Article comment by: AJ McKay

@El Pica I'm not sure, but I think Desert Beat was referencing that real names should be used to cut down or eliminate some of the hate comments. It would be effective. I do respect your opinion about about knowing people with power in Blythe. It could be the same for a selected few but from my experiences many of my family members (huge family) and a great number of friends do not get caught up in politics. Many that have worked in the Blythe area 20+ years. So I guess in all fairness it varies greatly. With or without politics, life is what you make it.

Posted: Friday, April 26, 2013
Article comment by: Peace Be Still

Hello Bob, so in essence what you are saying is .....Let's agree to disagree?

Posted: Friday, April 26, 2013
Article comment by: EL PICA BUYAS

@ A J and Desert Beat. I'm all for the Monikers and the anonymity that it gives a person. It was desert Beat that wanted real names. I just pointed it out, that he was not using his real name, when he was the one that was calling for all to use their names. @A.J. Here in this town, if you do not have the Power or the Bling, or are family and part of their friends. Your voice is one of many that are lost in the darkness.

Posted: Friday, April 26, 2013
Article comment by: Desert Beat Blythe Ca

EL PICA BUYAS great way to deflect a honest opinion by sniping Desert Beat! For your information Desert Beat has many names its driven from people in our community that share information and concerns about Blythe. We do use are full names on the web page. including mine?

Posted: Thursday, April 25, 2013
Article comment by: AJ McKay

El Pica with all do respect a name/moniker will not make a difference on how changes are made. The people of Blythe have been battling themselves for years now. It's evident in the posts we read daily. Changes will have to start with PVVT as far as what the public is allowed to view. They are in full control of their printed newspaper and website. Nobody else.

Posted: Thursday, April 25, 2013
Article comment by: EL PICA BUYAS

@desert Beat C,C. If you want to start changing things here. Well then start by putting your real name down. If not then your are another voice in the night.

Posted: Thursday, April 25, 2013
Article comment by: Phyllis Price

I have just heard that the Morton Field complex will be torn down. I would hope that Blythe would strive to rescue this historic place. The War remembrances alone not to mention all the high school memories should make it worth while to preserve. Come on Blythians, rise to the occasion and do something. Who owns property now, would they sell portion? Snowbird RV park location? Blythe growth appears to be driving to mesa area, make the most out of it. Someone got the Patton Museum done and it doesn't have half the appeal of Morton.

Posted: Wednesday, April 24, 2013
Article comment by: Bob Weete

To Court Jester. I understand fully your point. Unfortunately, that is why the mystery names show. That is also why it is so hard, I suppose, to get "evidence" of the real facts in the hospital mess and/or city council, or anyplace else where people are power-mad. No one wants to lose their job, especially when they are hard to get. That is exactly, however, the way these people worm their way into their power. Intimidation is very effective for them to maintain their positions. However, I must clarify your "assumption" that because I am retired that I am therefore free to voice my opinion. That doesn't stop these people. A couple of years ago, I was publicly accosted in the post office by one of the current board members. I did not even know her, but she came up to me and said she just wanted to meet the person who was writing all the bad stuff about her. I had no clue who she was. I told her I had not written about her (I did not know the woman!). She insisted that I stop, and it went back and forth. Then, I was told by someone who was at the following board meeting that this person was telling how I had accosted HER! Then, some time later I got a "warning" letter from their lawyer group threatening me with a law suit if I did not stop writing about her. Weird, huh? In addition, my being retired did not save me from having 8 tires slashed after I spoke some truth at a hospital board meetings. My wife is afraid, my daughter who lives with us is afraid, and they have achieved their goal. I don't go to anymore hospital board meeting. Where there is a will, there is a way. Do we have the will to find a way to clean up the politics in Blythe? I pray we do.

Posted: Wednesday, April 24, 2013
Article comment by: Albert Galindo

Blythe California was my home for 20 years and in 2010 I moved away taking with me all the good times I had while I lived and worked at Albertsons Food Market as a Manager. Since 2010 I have been working on promoting Blythe California on the World Wide Web now that I live in Tempe Arizona I have been working with others to promote Blythe. Hang in there people, Blythe is worth investing, don't give up...

Posted: Wednesday, April 24, 2013
Article comment by: @ Bob Weete

You are 100 percent correct that all the rhetoric and personal attacks need to be taken down a notch. The reason I like many others do not use our own names is because when we have you just end up having people trash you whether what they say are true or not. That is when the circus begins and it just takes away from the debate at hand. The PVVT writers need to take the initiative to lead by example and leave their own personal dislikes of people out of articles. In your previous column you take and get your little digs in at those you do not like. They may seem funny and cute to you but they end up just inflaming the situation. If you really want to help tone down the rhetoric then get the paper to quit calling people greedy, corrupt, uneducated, unimformed, or what ever other little phrae that is used and start censoring the readers comments the way they should be and not allow people that are not elected officials, just average citizens, be attacked just because they support something that others do not. Then you will see more people use their names and see the tone of the argument get better.

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