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8/28/2013 6:00:00 AM
COLUMN: It's never too late
Bob Weete
Bob Weete
Bob Weete

Things often get worse before they get better. Have you noticed that? And when that happens, we usually say something like: "I keep putting things off and I just have to get on that task." And, grudgingly, we finally take care of it. Of course, it would have been easier to do something earlier, but we humans don't often do that.

So here we are, America, in a humungous mess, and it is not too late to finally take the responsibility for the mess we have caused ourselves. We are going to have to put complacency way, far behind us, pick up our lazy butts, and re-make America as it was intended. That's a "change" I can enthusiastically support.

The recent rash of senseless killings - by youths, particularly - are disturbing. Three basically homeless kids are bored, so they decide to go out and kill somebody. In another public case, a couple of guys beat an 88-year-old WWII veteran to death. This is what we've come to?

And don't even begin to try to enter the race card, here. That is something we already have enough loud-mouths using to make an even bigger deal out of a major tragedy anyway. The cause, in my mind, at least, of much of the turmoil in this country centers around the home - or lack of it.

You can't legislate good parenting, no matter how many laws you pass. It's "show and tell" time, folks. Yes, dumb as it sounds, "monkey see, monkey do", and "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree". These are not new, "cool" observations. They go back eons, and yet they are absolutely true.

It has been reported that those "bored" boys literally raised themselves, with parents absent (in jail) or totally out of touch. This, of course, may be an "extreme" case, but it is truer than we want to admit. There is not a person - even here in Blythe - who doesn't know of at least one situation where there are children without functioning parents.

And we wonder why so many children "go bad". Yes, I acknowledge that there are some wonderful young people out there. But when you make yourself aware of the number of children who have literally no chance of reaching their potential, you understand what we have allowed to happen in our country.

Our children need our direction; they need our love; they need our guidance; they need our respect; they need our experience. And the list goes on. I did not say they want or desire these things. Like all children of all generations, they would like to be free of any restrictions on their behavior.

In those terrible "olden" days, "no, you may not" was not a rare statement for youngsters to hear. We have been convinced that depriving our kids of their "freedom" to do what they want will impair their psyche or something or other. Balderdash! Learning right from wrong and good from bad is an essential building block in the character of good citizens.

Look around you, and take a look at the "examples" kids have for them in various so-called leaders and role models. You don't even need to look way back to Washington, D.C. to find people who set terrible examples. Look at the mess we have right here in Blythe; our hospital examples, our city council folks, school boards.

Check out the movies being produced for our kids to see "real life". Oh, boy, do they have an influence on kids. People hopping in and out of bed without marriage, people who rob, rape, kill, and all the garbage that passes as "entertainment". The music with foul language and suggestive portrayals. And look at all the glamorous stars flaunting sex and drugs and it seems glamorous and "cool" to kids who have nobody in their lives to guide them down the road of temptations that are there to "sell" something. Young people need to learn early that the temptations are a test of their strength of character.

You give in to temptation once, and it's like a narcotic; it's easier to make that or a similar decision again and again until you are hooked for life. It's true. If you have a base of good character, you will not be likely to choose to follow the path to your own self-destruction. I'm tired of reading and hearing about Lindsay Lohan. Who knows what she might have become, had she been raised with values and, of course, God in her life. Sure, she is splashed all over the news, but it is not for anything good, that is for sure.

"It's nine o'clock. Do you know where your kids are, and what they are doing?" If they are not home, in the house, studying for school, you need to change their habits - now. And without their cell phones! They must know you love them by your examples. How would you feel like if one of your kids had killed someone because they were bored? Or beat an 88-year-old WWII veteran to death? Yes, even your kids are capable of horrendous things if you don't take the lead you're supposed to.

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Reader Comments

Posted: Thursday, September 12, 2013
Article comment by: Court Jester

@ Court Jester

What happened to you to hate all people that had nothing to do with what you people complain about? Do I hate all Germans or Japenese or Muslims or Native Indians for all the destruction? No, I don't and neither should you. Quit bashing, killing, fighting, just stop it. Get a long, its not too much to ask.

Posted: Thursday, September 12, 2013
Article comment by: @court jester

Easy to say until it happens to you...

Posted: Thursday, September 12, 2013
Article comment by: Court Jester

MLK would probably not agree with most of the comments made on this page. All people need to live on this planet and it would make a lot of sense if we could all get along. You know the old saying "give peace a chance".
I personally think what happened yesterday or 50 years ago should be water under the bridge. GET OVER IT!

Posted: Thursday, September 12, 2013
Article comment by: check this out

You know the crazies have really taken over when the NRA and Right-Wingnuts can get a law passed in Iowa that allows the blind to own firearms. After all, it is a constitutional right!! Don't tread on me!! Protect the constitution-- except for the decision about abortion rights and the Affordable Care Act (both voted for by Congress, signed into law by a President, and upheld by the Supreme Court.)

Posted: Thursday, September 12, 2013
Article comment by: EL PICA BUYAS

As Mr. Weete said don't even begin to try to enter the race card, here.

I guess haters will try to make things up to start a fight. So when nothing works, you start a race war. And hope to bring down your opponent with your race baiting.

Posted: Thursday, September 12, 2013
Article comment by: Crazy Town

We must remember the mistakes of our past or we are destined to repeat them. I haven't seen the movie yet but I intend to when I can watch it in my own home. I will also watch 12 years a Slave. Some people can't admit the hatred and violence heaped on a segment of our society because in their eyes "they" are not one of us.

Racism is rarely as out in the open as it used to be, they cover it with stuff like gerrymandering and excuses like, "He's a Muslim". This type of ignorance is glaringly obvious to everyone but the writer.

Weete has yet to give a good reason for his hatred of our President, aside from general claims such as he's ruining our country and doesn't care about the constitution. The difference between he and I is that I would watch a film about Bush or Romney, just to make sure I am not wrong. People like Weete refuse to see the truth because then they would have to change. When you know better, you do better. Well, most people anyway.

Posted: Wednesday, September 11, 2013
Article comment by: please clarify

I do not understand Weete's statement in his comment to To Need to Comment. "False picture of a man" refers to whom? "Not perfect, but was not a racist" does not make sense to me. As Bob states he has not seen the movie, just who is the "man" he feels is portrayed incorrectly. Refusing to see a movie on the grounds that Weete has already decided it is propaganda demonstrates the true definition of a "pre-judging" attitude, the root of "prejudice." I have not yet seen "The Butler," but plan to as soon as it is released on DVD because I already know I am going to need to be able to pause, take hanky breaks, and take it in small doses. I too remember the 60's... I am sure Weete has no clarification to offer for his statement...

Posted: Wednesday, September 11, 2013
Article comment by: Assyrian tablet c2800 B.C.

The Earth is degenerating today. Bribery and corruption abound. Children no longer obey their parents. It is evident that the end of the world is fast approaching.

Posted: Wednesday, September 11, 2013
Article comment by: @ Bob Weete

Bob we know already know your a conservative Republican. No need to prove it when criticize movies content without seeing them, especially ones with powerful democrats in them.

Posted: Wednesday, September 11, 2013
Article comment by: EL PICA BUYAS

@ need to. So how can we hope for a better future, when we live in the past. That movie brought to light the horrendous acts of the past.

To be honest what kind of person lives their life with binders? You? Or did you just made this comment to bring race into it?

Posted: Wednesday, September 11, 2013
Article comment by: Nobody Special

@Need To Comment You say, " I really never felt the cruelty of it until the movie showed our actions." Really? At your age? It never struck you when seeing it in person? The dogs?! The Fire Hoses?. Bull & his Thugs using nightsticks on unarmed, unresisting protesters? Children burned to death in a Church? Freedom Marchers being killed & buried in an earth dam? Never struck you as "cruel"?! My, you really WERE "southern" weren't you? But don't feel too bad. There are MILLIONS down south who DID understand it! Their CHOICE was 2 perpetuate it! You merely didn't understand.

Posted: Wednesday, September 11, 2013
Article comment by: Bob Weete

TO Need to Comment. I have no intention of ever seeing The Butler. Why? Not because I want to avoid the "ugly" part of American history, but I won't knowingly see a movie that is intentionally trying to portray propaganda as history. Oh, I know we have an "ugly" side to our history, but at least we (some of us) are trying to remember those times, with the intent of never allowing similar things to EVER happen again - here in our own country, or anywhere else. My own father was from Texas with some of the old Texas thinking we had quite a number of arguments about racism, and I was appalled at his attitude. This film, however, was presented to paint what I believe is a false picture of a man who, though not perfect, was not a racist. I also will not see the one coming out about Hillary Clinton, because it will glorify that woman as a saint, which she ain't. Anybody who sees that one, is also being lured into thinking she is so great, so she can win your votes. Please see these for what they are, and don't be fooled. Oh, by the way. Nancy Reagan was played by one of America's more blatant traitors, Jane Fonda. I just "wonder" why, of all the actresses they could choose to portray a classy lady, they came upon this choice?? It's a wonder they didn't try to get Mother Theresa to play Hillary.

Posted: Wednesday, September 11, 2013
Article comment by: happy camper

I had occasion to be on the high school campus a couple of weeks ago. I met the most polite, generous young people anyone, anywhere could hope to meet. They were a mixed-race group who were obviously friends. What grade levels they spanned I could not say, but all were willing to answer my questions and help direct me to where I needed to be. I only regret now that I did not get any names or make a visit to the office afterward to congratulate them.

Posted: Wednesday, September 11, 2013
Article comment by: Hesiod 8th century bc

I see no hope for the future of our people if they are dependent on the frivolous youth of today. When I was a boy, we were taught to be respectful of elders...

Posted: Tuesday, September 10, 2013
Article comment by: NEED TO COMMENT

I never comment on your article, but I need to today. I am a seventy-four year old white woman, who is Christian through and through. I just went to see "THE BUTLER" thinking it would be a good movie about history, but I was devastated to see that it was about civil rights. I have never cried so much in my life, because I have seen these terrible things done to blacks in our community and where I was raised in the South. I really never felt the cruelty of it until the movie showed our actions. I was raised "right", knew what was right and wrong, and still allowed these terrible barbaric acts to happen. That was in the 50s and 60s. Lets not sugarcoat it Bob.

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